Sharing the Financial Burden of Wedding


Sharing the Financial Burden of Wedding Summary – Wedding is an expensive affair and a lot of financial burden is there to be shouldered. Sharing the financial burden could provide relief to all concerned. Wedding is perhaps the most important event in the life of a man or woman but at the same time is an expensive affair. Apart from the wedding related expenses, there are also the expenses of hoisting the wedding or reception parties and feeding and entertaining the guests. Everyone Can Contribute His or Her Share

Sharing the expenses of wedding ceremonies, or for that matter any such event is nothing new and has been resorted to time and again by many people. There are some age old practices that are adopted by people in such sharing process. At the same time some of the trends are comparatively modern and latest in the market.


Deciding on Who Pays for What

When it comes to any expense sharing, and that includes wedding; it is necessary deciding first who pays for what.

  • First and foremost step is to decide who are the persons who could share the expenses relating to the wedding;
  • This may include the wedding couple, their parents, family members, friends, relatives, and even close associates;
  • You would be real lucky to have some wealthy persons in the list who could contribute handsomely; and
  •  It is also the time to prepare the initial guest list for the occasion.


Excluding the Reluctant Participants

However, while preparing the sharing list it would also be essential to assess the mental set up of each of the persons included in the list. There will be no meaning of including someone who is reluctant and may ultimately turn down the requests for sharing the burden. Even if such people may initially not oppose the contribution, they may do so at the nick of the time leaving you high and dry.


Current Trend in the Society

Anyone trying to have the burdens shared should have a look at the present day trends in the society.

  • Usually weddings are paid by two family counsel that includes members of the family of bride as well as the groom;
  • Over 60% of the brides as well as grooms are now paying for at least some part of the expenses;
  • Thus the old system of dividing expenses have become obsolete and inapplicable today; and
  • It makes an altogether new version of who-pays-for-what and the sharing of the expenses.

Modern Time Burden Sharing

Let us now have a look at the modern burden sharing methods adopted in most households and in the society at large.

  • Bride takes care of gifts and lodging for the bridesmaid, personal stationery and thank you notes of the couple, and taking care of wedding programs as well as guest books;
  • Responsibility of the groom would be engagement ring for bride, obtaining the marriage registration and license, paying out the officials, renting or purchasing formal wear; gift and lodging for the groomsmen and attendants; boutonnieres for self as well as groomsmen and flower for elders in both families.
  • Together the bride and groom takes care of wedding band, and honeymoon but bouquet and flowers are generally arranged by family members;
  • Bride’s family takes care of engagement and the wedding pictures, invitations, consultants, ensemble, fees for the ceremony and rentals for religious rites and rituals; flowers, reception and site fees, catering, music, luncheon for bridesmaid and transportation etc;
  • Grooms family usually takes care of rehearsal dinner; beverage, photography, music and limousines; and
  • Guests take care of their own transportation.

The list is in no way exhaustive and is suggestive but fact remains that sharing of expenses eases the burden on every stakeholder quite a bit. 



Just Got Engaged!

Just Got Engaged, What Next?

The time between getting engaged and your wedding is the most exciting time of your life. You will feel elated and happy after the engagement, but there are a myriad of things to think of involving the wedding planning. The actual planning for your wedding starts right after your engagement, and to be certain that you are not rushed and confused by the many things to do; here is a list which can assist you in making it an easy and exciting time.

  1. Inform the most important people.  You should tell your closest relatives and friends in person about your engagement. It is good manners to inform those who are the closest to you, yourself by phone or pay a personal visit. If you have children from previous relationships, you should inform them before you let anyone else know. It is traditional Western etiquette to inform the bride’s parents first of the engagement. The groom’s parents are next. If you have to inform a set of parents who are divorced, make sure that you inform them all in the same way. It is also a good idea to arrange a dinner with each of the sets of parents. The dinner should be arranged when you inform the parents and this dinner occasion will be where a more formal approach to the wedding planning is taken. Be ready to go to this event ready with your preliminary plans for the wedding as discussed between yourself and the groom, especially wedding venues and date and also some thoughts about wedding ideas.
  2. Tell the world.  After the parents, your relatives and closest friends have been informed in person, you can tell the world about your engagement. In the modern world Twitter and Facebook takes precedence, but more traditionally an advertisement in a major newspaper would communicate your engagement, and sometimes also your decided wedding date.
  3. Set the three most important wedding planning items.Now that everyone knows, it is time to start planning your wedding in more details. The three most important planning items should be around a date for the wedding, securing wedding venues and ideas for the wedding. A wedding venue can be influenced by the time of year you are planning for the wedding to take place. Your wedding venue is also largely dependent on wedding themes and ideas. It is therefore imperative to let the first planning be around your wedding ideas so that you can secure a wedding venue. When those three important items of your planning is set, it acts as a template to plan the rest of your wedding details.
  4. Plan the finer details of your wedding. You can now complete the finer details of your wedding for example, the guest list, cakes, décor and music, according to your budget. This is a fun and exciting time to plan with both your families and close friends. Using a wedding planner is a good idea, it gives you the opportunity to focus on the themes, ideas, colours and atmosphere which you want to shine through on your wedding, but it leaves someone else to do the hard planning and bring together all your ideas.

The period after your engagement is full of excitement, family involvement and plans for the most exciting event of your life – your wedding. To be happy and not feel overwhelmed or get exhausted by the many things that need to be done and planned, follow this simple list of main steps towards the finalisation of your big day.